The Education of Chinese Children

When I was young I groped for fish every day after class. There were a few homework for children, so every child had a light heart childhood which were beautiful. But today’s children are so different, they have a lot of homework can never finish every day, they need to carry books by draw-bar box to go to school. They have to take lots of courses beyond normal courses, such like dancing, singing, playing piano, learning English, learning Olympic mathematics,painting etc.

Nowadays, the purpose of education has changed in China. There are some people who think that competition in children should be made, also other believes that children should learn how to cooperate as well as become more useful. There are advantages and disadvantages for both of the arguments.

Firstly, some parents think their children can not lose from starting line. This is because the intense competition from adults become more and more common. These people do not want to lose and aim to win, they send children to attend kinds of competition. Before that they hire tutor for kids for learning, or book several training classes. Possibly, children have no extra time for relax, there are lots of works waiting for them. Meanwhile the parents spend a lot of money to hope kids can learn faster that what they learn at school.

Furthermore, during the summer and winter vacations, children study English in English Training School, or parents hire a English teacher for kids individually, usually it is not cheap to learn English in China. When the children finish Nursery school and before go to primary school, they need to take examinations to test students’ level of studies generally, and only the highest 40% can go to the good quality primary school. If kid can not get a good score but still want to go to the good one their parents need to pay a lot of money. even secondary school and high-school, the competition is very cruel.

On the other hand, as they are busy to enter the schools and study individually with their tutors, they are problems to cooperate with others, because they may become selfish or unsociable. They become careless and don’t help others a lot if it is about studies. However, they will not capable to work with others when they go to companies after graduate, because a team needs different members, for instance, each person is weak for some part but strong in other part, if team work is not cooperated, it is not good for work. To cooperate is to improve this part, people can communicate with their fellows and learn with each other. They could also be a great opportunity to learn instead of learning alone with one teacher.

Moreover, the kids don’t have spare time to relax and develop what they really like as they are so busy to study, it is no good for their character build. They may become more and more hate study, and feel more pressure, it’s not good for their health. And the young kids feel that is a bored childhood.

Overall, I strongly agree with that children should be taught to cooperate rather than compete. Because children should to know how to work together with others, develop their cooperation ability. Therefore, I don’t think that it’s good to rank children since their childhood, in their childhood, they should play with others with fun, learn with others happy, and let them to enjoy the beautiful childhood at all.

About English Studies

I took IELTS test last month, I feel it’s totally different between Chinese test and Western test.

It has deep influenced my English learning method since I attended LaoLuo English Training. Actually I have learned English for about 13years, but unfortunately I never understood the correct method about learning English. What a shame, one of my old brother from Beijing Petra University said to me 10years ago, “I have learned English for more than 13years but I still didn’t know how to speak English, I need a speaking teacher. What a failure of Chinese education”.

When I was a freshmen in Beijing Language University and just knew repeat every single word from A to C from English dictionary, but that experience told me that it was a definitely wrong method. Why? Because every time I tried to remember a new word I found that it’s hard to remember in the second day. Furthermore, I could not remember the words one month later, then I just gave up. This was the most embarrassing study experience from my life. And most of my classmates they usually used the same method of mine. We finally found that we learned nothing in the end. However we all thought that the English learning is so hard.

After I worked in a foreign company, there were many chance to speak English during work. I had to learn new English words and used to speak English in different occasions. I used English to write mails and report, sometimes I had to check English dictionary for some unknown words. But it did not actually improve my English skill any way.

My IELTS teachers taught me how to learn English everyday, the method they taught to me are very useful. I do not just repeat single words but read a whole sentence from a whole essay, and try to understand what the word mean in the whole sentence, and then repeat the whole sentence. They also talked to us that how many you input and how many you can output. If you learn right you will speak and write right. No pains no gains that is true.

I just realize that I need to take the right way to study English from now on. Listen BBC every day, learn new words everyday, read English books, watch English videos, repeat what I hear and watch. Chance favors the prepared mind. I believe I can have more improvement.

青春期教育问题

最近我也为教育笑笑头疼,可她毕竟还是三岁多的小孩儿。昨天听表妹说二表弟又被请家长了,已经上高二的二表弟,通宵上网,冒充老师的签名做请假条,逃课夜不归宿。老师让家长带回去一周。

青春期的孩子都逆反,总觉得自己了不得了,有自己的思想了,不听大人的话。这也是大多数家长教育方法的问题不当,要采取正确的教育手段。回顾自己的青春期,也曾干过伤害他人的事情,老师跟被我伤害的同学说,我都能原谅她,难道你们8年同窗不能原谅她吗?从此后我再也不敢干违背常理,不利于他人的事情。每个人都会经历这个阶段,这个阶段尤其需要关心青少年的心理。虽然老师没惩罚我,但他给了我一次改过自新的机会,让我自觉自己错了,而他根本没提惩罚或严厉的事情。我反而从此吸取了教训,再也不犯。

小时候经常看爸妈惩罚我哥,他很调皮,经常犯错误。我记得我五岁左右的时候,有一天哥哥把家里刚养的小狗带出去游泳,把小狗丢了。回家后被爸爸拴在柱子上,让他承认错误,求饶。那是最初的记忆,只记得当时爸妈都很生气,发了很大脾气。也许是杀鸡骇猴,我从此小心翼翼不惹事生非,做个乖孩子,老师,邻居,爸妈眼里的乖孩子。而恰恰就是不想挨皮肉之苦,我选择顺从和听话,这样心理没有负担,也觉得自己是个正常的健康的孩子。

青春期的孩子会迷茫,被新鲜事物吸引,对某一样感兴趣的东西着迷,而无法自拔。有些人是早恋,有些人是青春期综合心理障碍,有些事情想不通,就钻牛角尖。父母如果及时了解情况,了解孩子的心理状况,用正确的方法引导,老师也用正确的教育方法,孩子应该会走向正确的方向。光是打骂不解决问题,17-18岁的孩子什么都懂了,理解能力也不差,关键是疏导他们的思想。

我看了一本好妈妈胜过好老师的书,那个作者是个很成功的妈妈,当她发现孩子有点早恋的时候跟孩子说,你现在还小,你的圈子也还小,你认识的人你觉得现在是最好的,你很喜欢他,但过几年你回过头肯定不那么想,因为几年的变化会改变一个人,那个时候你发现你还能找个更好的,因为你是个很优秀的孩子,所以现在早恋并不合时宜,你可以跟某一个男孩子保持友谊关系,但不值得把所有的注意力都放他身上,人的思想和学识都会发生变化,到几年后你会发现他也仅此而已,比你想象中的理想恋人还有段距离。那个孩子就听了妈妈的话,还在妈妈的帮助下带那个男孩子到家里做客,跟男孩子说清楚,说他们只是现在有好感,但为了这短暂的好感而浪费学业和大好光阴不可取。孩子们都得到了正确的引导,没有走向早恋的歧途。

谁没有年轻过?谁没有过青春期呢?青春期的心理和行为是正常的,不要觉得自己是个怪物,要正确对待这个青春期问题,父母是孩子最重要的老师,跟孩子多交流,了解他们的想法,才有利于解决问题。

希望我的表弟能从这段阴影中走过来,重新好好考虑自己的前程,自己的未来需要自己的双手创造而不是别人。

如何让自己变得强大

我自认为是个善良的人,可往往有人拿着你的善良不当回事,欺负善良人。
这一个月我在做几件维权的事,追货款和讨回自己的权益。深有体会,当你夹着尾巴装孙子的时候就等着被恶人欺诈,当软柿子捏吧。

如何不做一个软柿子,维护自己的正当权益,采取可行措施,有计划有步骤有策略的行事。

我不得不大力赞扬一下目前强有力的新浪微薄,凡事在上面声讨,只要你是正义的都能得到重视,有微薄好友帮你转发。

我一听合伙人说凡客付了别的供应商钱,可一直拖着我们公司,我就急得像热蚂蚁上锅,但我又必须冷静,采取一定措施,在微薄找找关系。一方面新浪微薄已成气候,很多不公之事都会得到大部分人的支持和关注,闹得最大的可数GMM事件,动车事件,钱惠云事件等。我想既然大家那么热爱用微薄,我也能利用微薄做点什么。我先找了凡客创始人陈年相互关注的人,从他们微薄着手,我先搜了大致凡客的高级总裁副总裁名字,然后给他们发私信,希望他们给我转到负责付款的部门,然后我可以直接联系她们。很快,连续发了10条私信和求关注信息后,有个平台事业部副总裁回复我说帮我转给相关负责人,其中一个凡客的副总裁还关注我,告诉我要找相关负责人他们可以帮助到我。紧接着凡客的采购就联系我说,我投诉的事情,上级副总裁已经发话,让核实,然后解决。当天凡客没有给我正面回复是否付款问题。第二天我继续给这个副总裁发正式邮件,她回复说当天给我答复。然后她就骂总监和经理,说你们知道这个供应商给我们惹了多大麻烦吗?才拖几天货款就闹成这样,如果每个供应商都这样,我们的工作就别做了。她派下级继续跟我协商,我说没商量余地,按合同办事。因为当天我们还找了相关税务机关的高层打电话给凡客催账,财务也找到采购埋怨,说税务局领导打电话让一定先安排我们的付款云云。

凡客的高层看我态度坚决,就只能认了,赶紧准备付款申请,我们势必要在下周25日前拿到付款。

上周我回成都,在携程订了汉庭酒店,结果由于没收到确认短信,我在携程用了信用卡担保,没去入住,我没看到确认订单我就改成订如家酒店了。结果携程那个男的说我违约必须要扣我房费,我没住我凭什么付房费,可笑,他说我收到短信了,可我压根没收到,这只能算运营商的责任,但他却指责我有意撒谎。我只好投诉他的态度恶劣,正好我的信用卡到期了我就它注销了。这两天这厮一直给我电话,我不接。今天给我发短信说由于我的信用卡无法扣款只能扣我的携程积分100分和将钻石贵宾降成普通会员。我觉得很可笑,就在微薄骂携程,朋友@携程客服后,客服让我私信给他情况说明,然后携程客服主管给我来电,解释了半天后说不信我这么优质的会员会违约,由于他们工作的疏忽和员工的服务态度差,她跟我道歉,并说不会扣我的款,并要求我在微薄把帖子删除,我说我不删,我只能说我接到客服电话的解决方案很满意之类的。

这两件事总结起来就是你软,就被认欺负,但你如果强硬,结局就完全不一样,还要做得轰动,让对方害怕,因为他们不希望闹大,互联网的传播速度很快,任何一个负面消息都会影响他们的生意。

要让自己变得强大,就要学会用法律武器和策略保护自己,法律说到底是最后的底牌,因为诉讼周期长,审理慢,并且大多数公司不怕官司,这远没有新浪微薄传播速度快和有力!

要学会生存就得学会如果使用互联网,运用些技巧加以整合,希望引起有关方面的重视。

最重要的就是要让自己变得强大!